#299: How To Manifest Your Destiny w/ Laina Caltagirone
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SPEAKERS
Law (64%), Speaker 2 (30%), Speaker 3 (2%)
Law Smith
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Episode 299 sweater UI podcast and streaming show the number one business comedy podcast and pragmatic entrepreneurial advice real. Keep saying Oh, I like it. I like it. I hate it though. Who else likes it? Works global excellence awards. Proudly hosted by Lux Life magazine. You know why? They gave 2020s best small medium enterprise business podcast advisory in the United States award to us sweat equity boost by me lost it in you, Eric Readinger me? Yeah. You want some? We've got my old time friend. Not all all but all LTE friendly cleaner couch jeroni on to talk about turning butter Delta droning check her out Atlantic Council droning.com if you want her coaching advice in her podcast coming out by the time this airs called LMG let's fucking go I love that. I do love that. Listen to this podcast on iTunes f podcast is a great review. Five Star read a little review text and then hit that subscribe. Smash that buttons is the girl on blood bath said this episode of sweat equity is brought to you by ExpressVPN. Try expressvpn.com forward slash sweat three months free off an annual plan a virtual private network. You need to log in. You need to protect yourself from Big Data. Nobody thinks so tracking me
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Law Smith
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My sweat equity.
Law Smith
2:50
sweat equity. sweat equity. sweat equity.
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About my sweater.
3:08
How are you guys?
Law Smith
3:09
Good. Lena Lena. Eric.
3:12
Nice to meet you, Lena.
3:14
Hi, Eric. I don't think we've ever met heavily.
3:17
No. And why would we How can you turn turn here? versus it's no different than it was
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last time but
Law Smith
3:26
I didn't do nothing. Maybe my hair isn't my ears. Maybe I'm going deaf? Which is more likely? Yeah. We we just roll so we're already rolling. Okay, good. That's how we do it. Before I forget, tell everybody where to go. To reach out to Yeah. Assume your website, but you may have to spell out your name because I'm dyslexic. And if I start reading it out, I might mess it up.
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Speaker 2
3:54
And we went to like kindergarten through eighth grade pretty much together. I know. Oh, really? insulting? Yeah.
Law Smith
4:01
to spell your name and to be as dumb as I am about smelling stuff. That's like that I'm sweating now thinking about it because it's gonna be like do it you should do it. Do it. Ready? Okay, you want to go to Lana count to drone a cheating.
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Speaker 2
4:20
Calm or my Instagram, Lena underscore Caltagirone and on my link in my bio is like all my stuff.
Law Smith
4:26
But everything that everybody's just gonna Google that I'm saying couch drone is not the easiest names to spell. It's not phonetic. It
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Speaker 2
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is. It is. Yeah. How would you spell kouta va LTA? How would you spell jeroni g i r
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J, J, J.
Law Smith
4:51
So go to La inacaltagirone.com And it's a Squarespace site. You know, we know that because we made like 200 of those Squarespace sites. We know it by template.
5:08
It definitely Squarespace.
5:11
Yeah, but what template word?
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What?
5:13
So but what template,
Law Smith
5:15
I'm Rusty on my template game because we have a nerd off over here,
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don't worry about
Law Smith
5:20
it. But I like it, it's a white classic, it's pure, I think it's what you're going for is a brand. It's about you, your your brand, your on brand with a kind of off white sweater. So I think it all works.
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Speaker 2
5:34
You know, try to stay on brand. That's my thing. It would be my brand is me. So like, but as long as I'm just being me, I'm on brand. That's good.
Law Smith
5:42
Well, people, people have a dream, just we're literally talking about that 10 minutes before we started, I'm having to make my own site, which I sat on from doing for a while, kind of a personal professional one. I'm trying to goad Eric into reviving his kind of personal professional site, just as another touch point for it maybe for this show, or other opportunities out there for either of us individually or together, whatever. And it's retinue. Yeah, well, some of them are sexy. And it's one of those things too. It's, I was telling him I hate jumping into my site to look at my fat face on there getting your banner and my hero image, but I got nothing better. So I got an old headshot in there. And every time I go in, I'm like, whoo. And then like, it's just like, get over it kind of thing. But it seems like because you were maybe third guest on sweat equity. Six years ago, five, six years ago,
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really? Six years ago. That's why
Law Smith
6:43
Yeah, you were one of the first guests. I know that.
6:48
podcast interview. So that's
Law Smith
6:50
always remember your first Yeah,
6:52
for sure. I guess virginity taken?
Law Smith
6:54
Yep. And so I'm not going to I wasn't gonna refer anymore, because it's bad to get sorry, nastier riffs. Pop that podcast Jerry. Eric. But it's that thing where you were at that time, from what I recall, you were kind of in the transformation period a little bit. You have been an attorney for I think you were still like practicing attorney right? About five, six years ago. And your your interests are starting to drift into this call, for lack of a better term. And you can kind of kind of explain it better this kind of coaching world. Is that where you're at? Well tell us what you're doing. How about that. And then we can go back.
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Speaker 2
7:39
So since then, I've transitioned full time. So when I was with you guys are with you. Because Eric, that's why I asked if I've met you because I didn't know Caleb
Law Smith
7:49
Caleb funny used to be the old host. But
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Speaker 2
7:53
so I was like dabbling and doing some coaching doing some courses. And I had all these big dreams and like not like now I'm doing a full time. This is what I do. So I left practicing law. Three, four years ago, I moved to LA to jump full time into this. And since then, I've been doing I've got a corporate side I do like corporate executive mindset coach speaking, which is kind of paused right now. ever create company digital classes, like same model that I was envisioning. I'm just like, fully doing it now.
Law Smith
8:29
So you are the success story. You call it you had a vision board? Could be a Pinterest board could be figurative. But you actually went and did it in a in an ambition that a lot of people try and fail at? I would say, yeah, the go to the coaching route, because you're also young for a lot of the coaching, right? Like I'm sure you've gotten Why should I listen to you? You're not even 40 yet. Right? I get some Look, I get some of that in the marketing world this this strategy or business planning world. Once I started having a little bit more gray in the hair and beard, it shaved your beard though. That's
9:13
the problem.
Law Smith
9:14
Well, I tried to shave today. I tried to shave today. And I'm so bad at it. I'm so much better downstairs, shaving, because I can do amazing. Now I'm really good at shape. manscaping myself, but the top, I tried to trim the little baby hairs that go over your lip. I got a job interview tomorrow. It's a big boy job interview. I gotta wear you know, gotta be in a suit. This might be a job, I have to wear a suit every day for kind of executive role. And I'm like, Well, I got to make sure I look good. And I was like debating all the time. And then I cut it and I looked like I was trying to be a Puerto Rican basketball player in the hood. And I was like, that's not that's not going to do well. That's not gonna where you cut it and it looks like pencil thin must dash guy from the Jimmy Buffett song. Or like, you know, if you don't want a guy cuts the mustache a little bit above the lip. You're like what? Yeah, yeah. And I know and I tried to eyeball it.
10:18
That could be a look, you know, depends on what you're going
10:20
for. But he never takes risks. I don't
Law Smith
10:23
have that kind of cachet. Plus, I was looking at myself before he jumped on zoom. I'm like, Hey, I know. This makes me look a little bit younger, so I just need to go a little bit more son. I got a big american dad face Little Big chin. But you know now I've grown into it a little bit when you and I grew up when I went to camp with our mutual friend Tommy how we went to sports camp and mccolley Sports camp in Chattanooga. And they've put everybody's Macaulay ma MCC matters over here. And on the doors, they put everybody's name and then every year they would put a name of a guy with a big chance I'd walk up and it'd be like your roommate Tommy how in Jay Leno I'm like What the fuck? I'm like 11
11:05
What are you talking about being chin watts? Yeah,
Law Smith
11:07
I used to have this huge I know but I don't get it. I thought it was a funny story. Understand what you're talking about? I got a big I got a just a bit that actually happened. I swear to God that happen. Every year I would walk up and it'd be another like hater name. No one else would have that in our in our life team because your Oh, they would call you j right? Oh, just hating on and I'm like fucking I'm the weapon. And no one's no one's around to see me see this. So it's just like I hate just like, let's start out in the negative right when I walk up. Yeah, I got it. Yeah. Anyway.
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Speaker 2
11:44
Dude, a little kids, you know, like, I don't know, for a while if you're sensitive. I mean,
11:49
he's still talking about it for grazing?
Law Smith
11:51
No, I just thought it was I was I thought it was kind of funny. Because I was always I was already in that mode of like, I can make I can make fun of myself before you do it. kind of call it defense mechanism or call it whatever. But I was already good at that. I and then I found out who did it and I just hated on him. So I was already a little spiteful, maybe. But let's fire up and he woke up. He woke up and you're just like, Alright, I'm ready for good. Good summer camp. And you're like, what the fuck?
12:21
You do kind of look like Jalen.
Law Smith
12:23
And I met him and I was like, you're my dad. Yeah. Anyway,
12:27
he does look like he could be your dad.
Law Smith
12:29
Yeah. Oh, weird. And you end he does the he goes up real high. Hey, it goes into light.
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Speaker 3
12:37
So you're doing, you're doing the Martin Short guy. What's his name,
Law Smith
12:41
Jimmy. Like that. As you can see, the show's gotten a lot better as far as staying on topic. It's still very much add doubt. But Alright, so back to your coaching. We did. It's a real, it's real mechanism to get your guard down, make it serious, make you not think this is serious. And then you're going to tell some real serious shit. We're going to get exclusive. So tell tell us that plight. So you? You were not so happy as a practicing attorney? Or you felt like there was something better out there? Let's say? Yeah, like you had a better mission for like what you wanted to do with your life.
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Speaker 2
13:24
All of the above? You know, like, I just remember being in like three hour mediations with all these like older guys. And I'm just like, what am I doing? This is so not fun, fulfilling, boring. And I loved it. Because I was practicing law with my dad, I worked with my dad every day, and I love him. But it was just it was just not fulfilling and I wasn't happy. And I was kind of trying to figure out because I'm like, why am I so unhappy? I have a good job. My family's healthy, I'm healthy, got a relationship. I've got a house like everything on paper is good. But Like what? Like, why am I not happy? And so I started reading a lot and studying personal development. And it's like, as I started to kind of change my life and get more awareness about myself and my thoughts and all of this stuff. It became pretty evident that like, there's something else that I'm supposed to be doing and it had to do with this area. And I wanted to share with people in more normalize this kind of like inner work, because it really makes a difference in your happiness. You know, a lot of us are walking around not happy enough. So
Law Smith
14:32
yeah, I think I think the first thing do you have to find people that are willing to change or do you find a lot of people coming your way that are kind of don't realize that's the number one spot when they need to be kind of a lot of people want to change, they really want to grow, but they have to be willing to do it and really wanting to do it. So do you ever have an instance where people come to you, and you're like, hey, you're not even meeting me halfway. I hear that some
15:00
of this is court mandated.
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Speaker 2
15:03
Yeah. And so I really won't work with someone like I have a very small amount of private clients. And the rest I do is like group stuff. So I won't really take on clients. Unless they really want to, you know, they're paying money, they pay a lot of I charge more than I did as an attorney. So they're paying a lot of money to do this. So those people are invested, and they want to change, they want a relationship, they want to change and career, they want to end their stress. So they're coming to me to like partner, like, people get business coaches and gym coaches. And this is like, as a life coach, you know, and I know, it's like a weird, not common thing yet. But it's like, you need help seeing your blind spots, and you need help creating a vision of what you want, and working through the steps to get there, you know, so the people that come to me are ready to do it. Now. I've had people when I did some corporate stuff who got assigned a session, but still, I mean, it takes sometimes people a long time to open up, but generally like people are ready. And I find it now more than ever, especially after I last year, people are looking for more,
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Speaker 3
16:06
did you have to mess with the price point of things where it was like, Oh, I'm not charging enough for people to actually take it seriously.
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Speaker 2
16:13
I was sent I that's been a whole journey. I mean, like business, entrepreneurship is a whole personal development journey on its own. I mean, developing confidence around selling and pricing, communicating your prices. And yeah, I mean, of course, I undervalued my shit at the beginning. And what I've learned is, the more people invest in them, the more they value it, they take it seriously. And if I give the way to someone for free, they won't show up and do the work. And if I actually find the more I charge, the more people show up, and the more they get out of it.
Law Smith
16:48
Exactly. We talked about it a lot on this show the the value of free is fucking zero. It's a goose egg.
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Speaker 2
16:55
And it's, it's tricky, because this industry, a limiting belief that comes up is like, oh, you're trying to help people. So why are you charging for helping people, but it's exactly what you said, you invest what you pay. It's, you know,
Law Smith
17:08
the worst, the worst comedy crowds are the free ticket crowds. And it's like, if you just paid $1, if there, it's a psychological thing, if you got out your wallet and gave $1 or four quarters, or 10 dimes, or just list everything, are you doing 100 pennies, or you give a five and they give you four back. But if you just made that it's a weird psychological thing, when you don't do that, and something's free. The shows are always shitty. And it's always like, it's the free ticket crowd. They call them comp tickets in the comedy world, and it's like, Man, this is a cop room. Fuck, yeah,
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Speaker 3
17:41
this is going to be tap dancing. And I can't get down on myself. If people leave too well, it's not for everybody. I'm sure there's tons of people in your business that don't charge as much as you do. And don't care. And they just Oh, you want to sign it up? You know? And I've got 100 clients, and none of them follow through on anything. Right?
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Speaker 2
18:02
Right. There's definitely I mean, with every industry, there's people that charge a whole range of prices, right. And my business isn't really like a high volume. As far as the one on one coaching. I'd rather scale digital classes and group things, you know, and do a lower price. But what I try to do is have low price kind of self study things. And then obviously, the higher end would be private coaching, small group coaching, like I do, like a business program for three months, and I take a 10 to 12 women who want to start this business and I get them up and running and launch a product and put it out to the world. So like, those are higher tickets, but I kind of have things across the board.
Law Smith
18:46
No, you should have you, I would call that a lead in service. If you're starting to have like this podcast, if we were smarter, we'd kind of do what you're doing at the afra mentioned personal professional brands, or we can do consulting hours. But this is the free This is we always want to make this show free. And then maybe maybe eventually create a premium you do Patreon or whatever. Or we do some kind of other series, or we leverage it into a live podcast kind of corporate comedy ish thing. But yeah. Well, I mean, do corporate companies rough so it'd be tough. That'd be a tough part. If it was corporate. What is corporate? You have to be clean, super clean, for sure. Can't take any risks. You can't talk about sex. Anything that's interesting. Basically, comedy with HR attached to it. Yeah, think about that. But they pay. They pay a lot. And so a lot of comics, do the gigs, regret doing them because it hurts their soul. But when I've done I've done a few of them. And it took me a while to find out that like whoever's are coordinating it. It's on them to watch me Before they hire me, and so I found out like, because I would go up and try to play k two and I always bond. I was like, This is terrible in the crowd doesn't like it either because they're, they're just normal people, they you know how to win over that free ticket crowd eventually. And a lot of them don't know stand ups coming. So I had to like, I had to tell the Booker Hey, do they know stand up is going to happen? Are they going to be at the buffet table? Or is it How is what is the setup? Like? Is it going to be a real stage? Or am I on the floor with a fucking mic that goes to your hip? They like call it Bingo. Number one. Yeah. Like, what's the setup? And that's, that's a little bit of that. Realizing kind of what you're worth, after a while. I was like, I know, I'm better than this. Like, and I know, I can ask the right questions ahead of time. For you, I want to hear about that, that journey from really taking that leap. How did you know you needed to do this, like, to the point where you take that leap? Did you? Did you hybrid style, do it where you're working full time? Because that's usually the most pragmatic way. And that's kind of what we talked about on here.
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Speaker 2
21:11
Yeah, absolutely. And, you know, when we did our first interview, I was already like, you know, I was I had a side hustle. So I had a side hustle for a while. And so like, this morning, I did a podcast. And we talked about intuition. And I really strongly believe in preaching, help my clients with learning the balance between intuition and logic, and not just doing what makes sense all the time, but also falling when your gut tells you, okay, it's time to make that jump, or this is not the right opportunity. So you need both. And intuition actually has to be practiced. You know, we've been living all logic forever. And intuition is actually I think, more valuable and more expansive. So you need both. So to make the transition, yes, I had a side hustle, I saved up money. But there became a point where I intuitively knew like, this is my time, you know, and I work a lot on mindset and a lot about getting to know my inner world like him, I'm taking this action from fear, you know, and I really try not to make movies in my life, because I'm scared. And so I kind of always fear was always going to be around jumping careers, right. So by listen to that, I would have never jumped. So I needed to use intuition and logic to kind of make that decision of when to go.
Law Smith
22:27
If that makes sense. Yeah, that makes sense. It's weird. We have to zoom, we try to not talk over. So we're trying to, we try to give some of the answers a little bit of breath. So it's, it's a little tough than doing it in studio a bit. Well, that I think that's why I gravitated to where I saw what you're doing starting to market yourself a little bit more. I think I empathize with a lot of that. I'm also a little bit jealous that, you know, I need to get better at that as far as that self worth. But I think you're doing a good job promoting yourself. Because, look, there's always going to be a lot of haters that are in your social circles. And that's, honestly, when you start out your own brand. It's going to come from the inside out friends and fit that whole realtors sphere of influence, you know that the three rings of people, your friends and family, your friends, and then acquaintances and it goes out like that, then it's going to be users you don't know yet. How did you seek out the right light kind of tutelage when you knew you wanted to do this? Do you start researching a lot? or What do you mean? Like, like, Alright, so you're working, you're working as an attorney. And it's good to know that some of my attorneys that I've been in mediation with are all there. They might be daydreaming as well. Because I always think what I think of attorneys just like hyperfocus the whole time.
23:45
But which attorneys
Law Smith
23:47
summer business is summer night. Do you have a comment there? No. Okay. Yes, some Divorce Attorneys are checked out. So mediators are checked out to find out. But what I'm saying is, okay, you know, you have this you have this feeling you need to follow this gut right. Now, in the more practical sense to do the side hustle, How'd you find the right people in your industry? Because follow me here because it's like, the life coaching stuff can be can be very a lot of people can kind of trash it without really talking about it. You know,
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Speaker 2
24:36
this is this is the deal. Like I'm not talking or doing this for the haters, and I really wonder I know, but but this is the thing like with any new thing, yeah, there's gonna be people that don't like it. But there's those people like you have to understand they're not happy with what they're doing. Anyone that's talking shit rely on someone who's going after their dreams is unhappy in some way jealous in some way. And that's how they kind of hide it. So I don't talk about those people.
Law Smith
24:59
Not No, I mean, I might be projecting a little bit as I'm asking the question. But I'm saying, you know, how do you find the right teachers? How do you find the right people to follow to right? So that's, that's what I was trying to get to know
25:12
the business to grow my business. Yeah,
Law Smith
25:14
keep yourself centered. You know, we talked about entrepreneurial entrepreneur ism is it's, it's a, it's a, you're floating on a life raft, after your boats capsized, in the Gulf of Mexico, a lot of the times it's lonely. It's isolating, even if you're a mom and pop and your partner is your partner in real life, if they still don't understand what you're going through a lot of the time doing your own thing. So how do you keep yourself centered? Because I'm sure you're doling out that advice a lot of the time?
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Speaker 2
25:48
Yeah, that's a great question. And it definitely entrepreneurship is challenging. I mean, and there's definitely times we feel super alone. And I think one thing is I have a lot of peers, I have a lot of girlfriends, we're in the same industry who I've intentionally created, like, I know that I need a network to be able to do this, we need to be able to compare, you know, what are you charging? What platform Are you using, like, Damn that clients did that, like you need your peers around you. And what I found was like, you need people at your level. And then you need people who are ahead of you. And then you need people who are behind you that you're mentoring. When you have all three, you really have a good sense of community that keeps you grounded. I'm still growing like I'm still working on it. I still feel isolated. time but because I do have people to call when when things go down. I feel grounded. You know?
Law Smith
26:40
Yeah, like golf. Or poker, stand up or wrapping business the game you never when he never get to the thought where you're just like, Oh, this is the finish line. Right? Like basil. I mean, pay for the clear cut winners every weekend. No, but the games between your ears is the is the the romantic part of it, you'll never really you never unless you get 18 or 18. You still you're never going to and you know you can't do it. Have so that's that's the thing. There's there's always constraints. But if you put things around you like if you're around other golfers or other rappers, it elevates your game sometimes. That's more maybe more cooperative, competitive way, right? Yeah, I can't have that result. Like, I'm gonna go do an open mic after this. It's good for me to get called out by my peers. That I know I can do better than this, this and this if I phoned it in? Sure. You know, did you proactively look for that group? The let's call it the side group of friends that are in the same area. Let's go Let's call it the Papa Bear group that's ahead of you, the baby bear that's below you that you're you're pulling up because what I my agency, my whole thing was take advice from everybody who's been there and follow it as best you can philosophically work life balance as best you can. And then anybody below you talk at them to talk talk.
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Don't say anything back just
Law Smith
28:14
yell talk harder than you know, I I had independent contractors, because my whole thing was like, for a digital agency, not hire anybody full time until you had to. But it doesn't mean I can't help out the ones that were doing a lot of work with me. Hey, do you have your own LLC you should do that. You should if you need a CPA, here's my guy Michael Mussina shout out to my CPA, he'll run he'll walk you through because he walked me through like I was a five year old. So I would try to bring them out. Just because a I just went through it. Here's something that helps you it's gonna benefit me psychological egoism. But did you pro I proactively was trying to do that. I fell into a group of guys that ran their own businesses at the same level. And we would meet up like once a month and pitch about stuff. Did you kind of proactively look for that? Or do you fall into it? or How did it go? Yeah, I
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Speaker 2
29:07
mean, I think it's a combination of both. And I think the people in my life kind of, and I don't want the bad thing, but those people in my life kind of cycle as I change, you know, people who are friends with 10 years ago, I'm not super close to anymore. And so as I like grow in myself and in my business, or change cities or whatever, I feel like my friendships, my mentorship, my people shift I outgrow, especially with mentors and teachers I'm looking up to or whatever, like I learned from different people at different points. So I'm always I don't know, I don't know if that answers. No, no,
Law Smith
29:42
that's that's that's adaptability, right? That's very underrated. Changes is inevitable. everybody kind of knows that. But a lot of people, again, aren't willing to change and a lot of ways
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Speaker 2
29:56
and people hold on to things for too long because like, like you friends you know this is like I hope people don't hate on me for this example but you know some people are like okay, we've been friends since kindergarten so we have to be friends but that friendship is toxic and all they know
Law Smith
30:09
while you're on the podcast I feel like you had to find the three about you Oh
30:13
him from Camp
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Speaker 2
30:15
you don't know like people stick with people because it's been X amount of years but they're a really toxic relationship and stifling your growth or this and that and people feel like obligated based on time and I'm not saying cut all people out of your life but you can safely like distance and feel safe to grow and evolve and seek different people that that meet you where you're at.
Law Smith
30:39
You know, our new buddy, a new friend of ours, Bubba the love sponge. I've heard him talk about it. Yeah, he's we're friends with them. We want to show in July or August on back. We're going back
30:53
around forever.
Law Smith
30:54
The Baba army still strong. By the way, if there's like 20 million people that still listen to him, like very intense, we found out
31:04
such a loyal fan base, like what do you think it is?
Law Smith
31:06
Because He's good. He's
31:07
different. For sure. He's nobody like him.
Law Smith
31:12
He's gonna take an angle, and it's never vanilla.
31:15
He gets radio drama.
31:17
polarizing,
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Speaker 3
31:18
right? Yes, exactly. But that's what I want drama. He understands how to play into that drama. And he'll push it all the way to the edge and then
Law Smith
31:27
it's not the core. It's
31:29
it turns off and then he's, he's different.
Law Smith
31:31
Yeah, he was very sweet. When the mics are off. Give us a hug. Like, yeah, yeah, so anyway, but he was gonna hire me but didn't. It's still gonna happen. Yeah, but we're the hiring freeze everywhere until now. So he talks about having a one way friend and you can't have that like a one way road. You can't have that friend that's just a taker, always taking a stake in you know, steak and like, it has to be reciprocated. I just like that term. A one way friend. And that, yeah, it you got to cut some of those loose, right? nostalgia is a funny thing. Like, I see it with the reboots of all all the like, media stuff like Cobra Kai. Yeah. And it's like this shows okay, but it's not. It's not. Yeah, it's not amazing.
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Speaker 3
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It's just the nostalgia. See Ralph macchio. try and do karate moves still. Right? And barely do it. And thank you.
Law Smith
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I think nostalgia is way overrated, like imprinting right? in print. I still see look, I was telling Eric, I still see llena as the girl that coke bottle glasses and third grade that I remember. But I know you're I know, you're a different person, for sure. And I know, part of maybe being Winnie from The Wonder Years where you grew out of that had to do with your makeup to get here, right? Yeah. So it's one of those things where I hope that reference landed. I don't get it. What are you? You're like straight A student. Right? Growing up, and you're, you're a gorgeous human being. Now it's not it's not even subjective. You're a very attractive lady out there doing what you're doing. It is contagious. It is something that you go Oh, she's doing it right. Now I'm going to I'm running out of steam. I'm
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not leaving you from that.
Law Smith
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Well, we're about to close this out anyway, because we have to ask you the one question we ask everybody on the show that we failed to ask you the first time around. And I hope this, I hope this podcast was a waste of your time. Now. I see that because she's she's smiling, like what am I doing?
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Because it's almost over.
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Speaker 2
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It's actually really refreshing. Because, like, there's this side of me. I mean, you know, there's many sides of me, right? Like true. Like, all the time, you know, and the majority of podcasts I'm on now are like in my personal development world. So it's really refreshing to have like a relaxed chill bunny like Ironman. Good night.
Law Smith
34:02
Good. That's what we're going for real talk as as our homie say in the streets. You know, what advice would you give your 13 year old self? You can time travel, you go back in time, you can show up and not scare your 13 year old self but you can you can grab your 13 year old self and go this what would you say?
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Speaker 2
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I'm good pump myself up. I'd be like don't listen to any of us whether like people making fun of you or anything like that. Like I tell myself, I teach myself some self love in some way. I don't know exactly what I'd say. But I pump myself up and empower myself because I remember so much growing up just feeling like an outsider. Not enough and it's her and like, I think the majority of people feel like that into their adulthood. So if I can fucking nip that in the bud at 13 I would definitely go back and be like, like, only you are like every aspect of you. They're not cooler than you. They're not gonna anywhere on the same playing field here lactic loving yourself.
Law Smith
35:06
Yeah, no, it's you and I were walking you and I were walking around each other not knowing each other had that same kind of feeling that we're every we
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Speaker 2
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all we as adults, we still feel that shit. Are you kidding but
Law Smith
35:16
we're literally within proximity of each other at school every day. And we came friends as adults but it's like, it's one of those weird things that you don't realize that when you're younger so we we hear a lot of that self love. Cancel out all the radio noise. These are common themes we hear a lot so you're, you're on target with kind of the bell curve when people answer their option. Well, thanks for coming on. we'll have you back on whenever you need to promote something or
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love it. I love it. I
Law Smith
35:46
I'll be on any what's your podcast you mentioned you have one
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Speaker 2
35:50
I'm just starting it so it's called like it's called let's fucking go lft I'm sure you've heard that like acronym, but
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I buccaneers already Yeah.
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Speaker 2
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You guys will be shocked how many people so the main thing I teach is manifestation which is like it's really simple. It's what do you want in your life? Do you want fulfilling relationships and great wife or husband? Do you want you know, what do you want and like, be expansive about it and go after it and don't let limiting beliefs and fears and shit sabotage you like it's not so woowoo it's kind of fucking like setting goals. You know, so, but love it.
Law Smith
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Also, it's
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Speaker 2
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about the power, your language and your words and your thoughts. And you would be shocked how many people from Drake to Oprah to all of the main lifts hugely successful people we know at this time, are vocal about the fact that they practice manifestation they speak things into existence, they're into these things and it's common threat. So like what I want to do is normalize this stuff so people don't think it's weird and people actually use it. So I want to interview a lot of different people from all sorts of walks of life who use manifestations like that
Law Smith
37:00
their success. But when that when you run out of gas, or you need someone last second, we're here for you.
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manifestation
Law Smith
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podcast for life
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when you run out of guests will be
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Speaker 2
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on episode one. Okay, together, we're gonna work on self love raising our prices. And
Law Smith
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yeah, we'll go back a couple episodes in our in our catalog and look at Dean Akers episodes last two times it's been on it's talked about the exact same thing, just in a different form. It just talks about what do you want to do? Okay, where do you want to go? Work? Alright, put those, start checking off where you go want to go work? Now go attack it. If you want a job, or if you want clients? All right, what kind of client do you want? And this is what we used to do my office all the time on the whiteboard, just like what do you want to do? And five years, three years, one year, we'll put on the right side of the board. We're here all the way on the left side of board. We're going to be exactly we're going to be part of the story that gets you there. But how we're going to help you with
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Speaker 2
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Yeah, yeah, like designing your life instead of just like letting whatever happens happen, you know, and just like hoping it's good shit, like, why don't we get more like proactive with it? You know?
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You're empowering. Yeah,
Law Smith
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we love it.
38:10
We're gonna have you guys get on my
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whenever lock it in,
Law Smith
38:15
lock it in whenever you need us. Thanks for coming on. Thanks.
